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ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY

 

Abbott, Franklin, ed.1993. Boyhood, Growing Up Male. Freedom, CA: Crossing Press.

The author, a poet, psychotherapist, activist and author, living in Atlanta, Georgia, presents a collection of essays and poems by men of various race, age, and background. This work speaks to the power of our conscious and unconscious childhood experiences and how they shape gender and masculinity.

Ambrose, Stephen E. 1999. Comrades: Brothers, Fathers, Heroes, Sons, Pals. New York: Simon & Schuster

This work is a celebration of male friendships by an acclaimed historian. There is something unique which happens when men form close emotional bonds. This collection of stories provides the reader with a glimpse into what men can celebrate as a result of their father-son, brother, and comrades -in-life relationships. The personal recollection of the author's father-son relationship wonderfully illustrates what can come from relationships between men.

Bly, Robert. 1990. Iron John: A Book About Men. New York: Vintage Books.

The author, the National Book Award-winning poet and translator, offers a new vision of what it is to be a man. He explores masculinity by examining myth, literature, psychology and anthropology. He addresses the devastating effects of remote fathers in our culture.

Braudy, Leo. 2003. From Chivalry to Terrorism: War and the Changing Nature of Masculinity. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

The author is a University Professor and Bing Professor of English at the University of Southern California. He explores the conscious and unconscious ways in which European and American cultures have established an essential role for military and warrior virtue in defining masculinity. Through the examination of men and war the reader is made aware of how the war on terrorism may be more about how men should be men than about territory and resources.

Brooks, Gary R. 1995. The Centerfold Syndrome: How Men Can Overcome
Objectification and Achieve Intimacy with Women. San Francisco: Jossey-
Bass Inc.

Dr. Brooks is an associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences with the Texas A&M University Health Services Center. This work examines how boys are conditioned to pursue women through the objectification of their bodies. He points out how this condition he defines as the Centerfold Syndrome prevents true emotional intimacy between men and women.

Carroll, James. 2006. House of War: The Pentagon and the Disastrous Rise of American Power. New York, Houghton Mifflin Company

Mr. Carroll is a National Book Award winner and a New York Times best-selling author. The author describes his relationship with his father, an Air Force three- star general, as part of a bigger story about this country's out of control militaristic foreign policy. The author points out how fear and paranoia dominated men in our government. This work describes how men become dominated and controlled by the power of politics and the military industrial complex.

Connell, R. W. 1995. Masculinities. Los Angeles: University of California Press.

Mr. Connell is Professor of Sociology at the University of California, Santa Cruz and the author of several books on gender. Masculinity is discussed and viewed through the study of social science, psychoanalysis, as well as history in connection with colonialism and the creation of a global economy. He describes the complexity of remaking masculinity in the context of today's society. He further posits that the remaking process needs to focus on men's relationships and emotions.

 

Conroy, Pat. 2002. My Losing Season. New York: Doubleday.

Mr. Conroy is the author of numerous books including The Great Santini and The Prince of Tides. We are treated to a glimpse of examples of how men learn be men through male relationships, mentoring , role modeling within sports and at an all male military academy. This personalized story of playing basketball and attending the Citadel helps the reader to experience how shame, fear, and male peer pressure impact men's search for their masculine identity.

 

Faludi, Susan. 1999. Stiffed. New York: William Morrow.

Ms. Faludi is a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, author, and contributing editor for Newsweek and former reporter for The Wall Street Journal. She writes about the untold stories of men and identifies how they live in America with broken promises, leaving them feeling betrayed, angry and in deep anguish. She describes the cultural forces that constrain, impact and shape masculinity in post Second World War society. These conditions result in the "betrayal of the American man."

Friel, John. 1991. The Grown-Up Man: Heroes, Healing, Honor, Hurt, Hope. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications, Inc.

Dr. Friel is a psychologist in private practice and an author of several best-selling works. He discusses the concepts of Overmothered and Underfathered, the "betrayed male syndrome." He blends his personal journey growing up with his Midwestern roots and his own recovery to explore men, heroes, hurt, healing ,honor and hope.

Gitlin, Todd. 1999. Sacrifice. New York: Metropolitan Books.

Mr Gitlin is the author of a number of best-selling books, a columnist for the New York Observer and a professor of culture, journalism and sociology at New York University. This extraordinary novel takes you on a journey into the inner depths of the hearts of two men, a father and son. He writes about the son's pilgrimage, which parallels his father's experiences of love, grief and passion. This religious, erotic, and intellectual novel surprises the reader with a startling and moving discovery.

Glover, Robert A. 2000. No More Mr. Nice Guy. Philadelphia: Running Press.

Dr Glover is a psychotherapist with a PhD in marriage and family therapy and is a leading authority on the "Nice Guy Syndrome." Men learn how to always do the right thing as a result of having been shamed into submission. Their "nice guy" behavior is anything but nice. It is self-serving and conceived out of desperation and fear. In the end no one wins, least of all the man who suffers deep unresolved masculine wounds.

Grubman-Black, Stephen D. Broken Boys/Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse. Blue Ridge Summit, PA: Tab Books.

The author is an associate professor at the University of Rhode Island's College of Human Science and Services. His teaching experiences include work in gender role issues and workshops for men recovering from sexual victimization. He points out how society's traditional view of masculinity acts as a barrier to men's recovery from sexual abuse.

Gurian, Michael. 1999. The Good Son: Shaping the Moral Development of our Boys and Young Men. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam.

Mr. Gurian is a therapist, author of eleven books, and an educator who has worked extensively with families, school districts, churches and criminal justice agencies. This work details how our culture "directly poisons the character development of its males and neglects essential building blocks for that character." A blueprint, which can guide your child from birth to adulthood, is presented. Hear- felt stories, gathered from parents, teachers and other caregivers, told by the author illustrate this plan.

Hunter, Mic. 1990. Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse. New York: Fawcett Columbine.

Mr. Hunter is a psychologist, chemical dependency counselor and an expert on the treatment of male victims of childhood sexual abuse. This work discusses the myths and assumptions about the sexual abuse of male children. The stories of adult men and their loved ones describe their experience of childhood abuse, the after effects which last well into adulthood, and the steps taken to begin to heal.

Kauth, Bill. 1990. A Circle of Men: The Original Manual for Men's Support Groups. New York: St. Martin's Press.

Mr. Kauth M.S., is a psychotherapist and counselor to business executives, and has been active in the men's movement for twenty years. Men's groups provide an important means for men to heal, to grow and support each other. This is a step-by-step manual on how to organize, start and lead men's support groups. Rituals and activities are discussed that will promote honesty, self-disclosure, and fun.

Keen, Sam. 1990. To Love and Be Loved. New York: Bantam Books.

Sam Keen is a graduate of Harvard Divinity School and holds a PhD in philosophy of religion from Princeton University. He is also an author of twelve books including the New York Times bestseller Fire in the Belly. This book discusses the sixteen key element of love. He combines personal stories with psychological and spiritual insight to help reveal a "new map of love in all forms."

Keen, Sam. 1980. Inward Bound: Exploring the Geography of Your Emotions. New York: Bantam Books.

Sam describes his journey into "the dark night of his soul," or his depression/midlife crisis. His awareness of the benefits of embracing "negative emotions", not running from them, led him to an understanding of how fatigue, boredom, depression, grief and despair can lead to a journey to recovery of self and greater aliveness.

Keen, Sam. 1984. The Passionate Life. San Francisco: Harper-Collins.

This work provides the reader with a deeper look at Mr. Keen's personal journey into his struggle to
understand love, eros and sexuality. He takes us through the stages of the development of personality and points out pivotal examples of unconscious and conscious decisions which lead us into a deeper understanding of how and why our vision of love and eros is shaped. He also examines how fear and power weave a disastrous fabric for acting out love and sexual intimacy in our society.

Keen, Sam. 1991. Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man. New York: Bantam Books.

This landmark book is an effort to "get inside the dilemmas, delights, confusions and cares of modern men." He examines how men are "impoverished and alienated" as a result of modern rites of passage, war, work and sex. His opening poem captures his work when he writes: "A man must go on a quest to discover the sacred fire in the sanctuary of his own belly." He finishes by saying this is done "to ignite the flame in his heart, to fuel the blaze in the hearth, and to rekindle his ardor for the earth."

Kimmel, Michael S., ed. 1995. The Politics of Manhood: Profeminist Men Respond to The Mythopoetic Men's Movement (And the Mythopoetic Leaders Answer). Philadelphia: Temple University Press.

Mr. Kimmel is a Professor of Sociology at the State University of New York, Stony Brook, and author of other books about men and masculinity. This work presents a point-counterpoint discussion about pro-feminist view of the men's movement vs. the mythopoetic view as present by authors like Robert Bly. The central concern is whether patriarchy is sustained and supported through the recent men's movement presentation for the need to empower men.

Lawlor, Robert. 1989. Earth Honoring, The New Male Sexuality. Rochester, Vermont: Park Street Press

Mr Lawlor, the author of Sacred Geometry (Thames and Hudson) and co-author, with Keith Critchlow, of Homage of Pythagoras and Geometry. The author looks at male sexuality in the context of its "social as well as its personal impact and implications." Male sexuality is vitally linked to man's sense of self. Also explored is the view that an "imbalance in male sexuality is the core of contemporary problems such as the destruction and exploitation of the environment."

Levant, Ronald F., Gary R. Brooks, eds.1997. Men and Sex: New Psychological Perspectives. New York: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Dr Levant is Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychology in the department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical Schoo, author of books and articles focused on masculinity and men Dr Brooks is Chief of Psychology Services at the O.E.Teage Veterans Center, Temple, Texas. He is an Associate Professor in Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences with Texas A&M University Health Services Center, author of numerous articles and the book The Centerfold Syndrome. This work examines men and sexuality through social, psycho and emotional developmental models. Further the authors describe how boys become "socially traumatized" and are discouraged from engaging in emotional intimacy because it is equated with loss of autonomy.

Matthiessen, Peter. 1986. Men's Lives. New York: Vintage Books.

Mr. Matthiessen graduated from Yale University in 1950. His works of non-fiction have received numerous literary awards including The National Book Award for The Snow Leopard. This work traces life for men in the fishing industry. This historically and emotionally moving work puts the reader in touch with many feelings as he lives along-side the men who are scratching out a living fishing off Long Island, New York's south shore.

Moore, Robert, Douglas Gillette. 1990. King Warrior Magician Lover: Rediscovering The Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. San Francisco: Harper-Collins.

Robert Moore is a psychoanalyst and Professor of Psychology and Religion at Chicago Theological Seminary. He also teaches at the C.J.Jung Institute in Chicago Illinois. Douglas Gillett is a mythologist, artist, pastoral counselor and coordinator of the Institute for World Spirituality. This work traces male development through exploration of boy and man psychology. Most of the effort here is in the description and understanding of the four archetypes of mature masculinity: The King, The Warrior, The Magician, and The Lover.

Osherson, Samuel. 1986. Finding Our Fathers: How a Man's Life is Shaped by His Relationship with His Father. Chicago: Contemporary Books.

Samuel Osherson, PhD. is a practicing psychotherapist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He has taught at Harvard, MIT, and the University of Massachusetts. The central theme of this work examines the relationship of a man and his father. All men have "unfinished business," unconscious issues with their fathers which, left unresolved, affect relationships with spouse, children, friends, and boss. This can leave men with a profound sense of loneliness, vulnerability and rage. He discusses why a man must come to terms with his "inner conflict of the father-son relationship" in order to develop a new sense of strength and purpose in his family life and career.

Pittman, Frank S. 1993. Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity. New York: Perigee.

Dr Pittman M.D. is a psychiatrist and family therapist in private practice in Atlanta, Georgia. He also teaches in the in the department of psychiatry at Emory University and in the department of psychology at Georgia State University. Frank weaves a compelling description of how a boy learns to be a man. His use of personal stories of growing up, mixed with case studies taken from his practice, helps the reader grasp the depth and complexity for men in search of their masculinity. This book posits a model for the fathers of tomorrow's men.

Pollack, William. 1998. Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. New York. Henry Holt and Company.

Mr. Pollack Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, is the co director of the Center for Men at the Mclean Hospital/Harvard Medical School and an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School. This work, based on more than two decades of research at Harvard Medical School, explores this generation's "silent crisis," attempts to understand why so many boys are sad, lonely, and confused. Emphasis is placed on the need for parents and teachers to provide boys with the opportunity to discover and express their true emotions. Current conditions force boys to act as "little men" which does not help them either discover or express their true emotions.

Pruett, Kyle, D. 2000. Fathered: Why Father Care Is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child New York, The Free Press

Kyle Pruitt M.D, is a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Yale Child Study Center and Medical School. He is also a former Good Housekeeping columnist and host of his own Lifetime television series "Your Child Six to Twelve." This work presents an understanding of the father's role in child and adult development based on two decades of research at the Yale Child Study Center, as well as real-life examples from his own practice. This how to guide for fathers addresses the child's needs from infancy through young and mature adulthood.

Sheehan, Andrew. 2002. Chasing The Hawk: Looking For My Father, Finding Myself. New York, New York. Delta Books

Mr. Sheehan is a writer and investigative journalist for a television station in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. The reader experiences the conflicts, feelings, joys and difficulties a son faces learning about his father. This is a deeply personal account of Andrew's struggle to understand and love his father who is highly acclaimed in the running community. The author captures the emotion and complexities of a son trying to make sense of his own life in his father's shadow. This work carries you down the difficult path, through a father and son relationship, toward resolution, healing and love.